It took a heartfelt breakup for Bridget to realise she should get her life on track in the movie Bridget Jones’s Diary. For many of us the idea of self-care struck only when we are going through a tough phase in a relationship or to get over a terrible breakup.
What does exactly self care in relationships mean? It can mean a lot of things to a lot of different people, while all of them are right in their own context. Nadia, one of the authors of “Self-Care for the Real World” describes it as a mindset: looking after yourself the way you would look after someone you love.
When wrapped up in the daily tasks of living and being in a relationship, taking time for self-care can be difficult. Getting moody, discontent, anxious or distracted are signs that indicate the need of self-care. How self-aware are you about your needs or you’re expecting your partner to tell you?
In a relationship, we do have expectations that our partner will take care of us, but it’s more important to take care of yourself when you are in a relationship.
“The world is full of nice people. If you can’t find one, be one.” — Rumi
Every relationship needs regular attention and affection, whether it’s with your partner or a friend or a family or your own self. Taking time out for some self care is as important as taking care of your relationship. It need not necessarily be treating yourself to something expensive, it can be as simple as giving each other time and space for a solo peaceful walk, dancing to your fav tune or reading your fav book.
We are all social human beings with a natural tendency to connect to others in relationships but it’s crucial not to forget we are also unique individuals with an inherent desire to ‘be’ ourselves.